Not getting emotionally worked up is difficult after a tense conversation with your colleagues or superiors. After all, an argument can feel like a threat. You are afraid you’ll lose something – your point of view, the way you normally do things, the idea that you’re correct, or perhaps your power. 

Even after the argument, it is normal to continue to be plagued by a difficult conversation. Thoughts like “I could’ve said this,” “Why wasn’t I honest about what really was bothering me,” and “I feel like I completely lost the argument!” commonly haunt you for many days to come. 

As a leader, you are not immune to such thoughts simply because emotions interfere with your ability to recognize and focus on the issue during the conflict. And we become so eloquent after the heated debate because our emotions have subsided, and the rational thought process takes the lead. 

Sometimes, we can battle our emotions immediately, allowing us to quickly identify the real issue, make changes, and set things right. On the other hand, when our emotions linger, we tend to overthink, hold grudges, and plan for counterattacks. In such an instance, it is easy to lose sight of the real issue and instead get sucked into an ongoing drama that can continue indefinitely. 

How to Overcome Emotions after a Conflict?

Heated disputes and distasteful behavior can occur in the workplace at times. During such times, emotions overpower our rationale and put a bitter taste in our mouths for days to come. It doesn’t make sense to keep playing and replaying a conversation that will bring the aftertaste of regret for something that was said the day before. 

Listed below are some ways managers can distance themselves from the effects of workplace conflict. 

Take a Break 

Our emotional responses are not like light switches – we cannot turn off our feelings whenever we like. After the argument, taking the time to breathe and collect your thoughts is necessary. Use mindfulness techniques or breathing exercises to calm down mentally. 

Distracting yourself by indulging in therapeutic activity can also help. This could be as simple as grabbing your favorite meal or hitting the gym. 

Wake Up Proud in the Morning 

Begin your day with a clean slate and without the regrets of a past argument. Create a productive timetable for the day to keep yourself busy and get plenty of work done. Checking tasks off the list will help you feel accomplished and bring you back in the loop. 

Take Preventative Measures 

One of the best ways to cope with nasty workplace disagreements is by taking preventative measures. Whether it involves avoiding an argumentative colleague or creating clearer agreements highlighting employee responsibilities, taking preventative steps is critical. 

Discuss with your team members and superiors what can be done to improve communication and subsequently prevent conflict. 

Summing Up 

Conflicts are inevitable, but dwelling on them only does more harm than good. As a leader, it is important to quickly bounce back from such instances and resume your productive journey as soon as possible.